Teaching innocence about Drugs


Pure Sweet innocence

Pure Sweet innocence

We were sitting at the table and you asked me if I knew why you were wearing your Red shirt today. I knew the answer but was enjoying conversing with you so I asked why. Proudly you told me it was for Say no to Drugs day, and then asked me what drugs were.

Instinctively I looked into your innocent blue eyes and said they are something that makes you sick and are bad. Now, I love how you want to know the reason behind everything, however sometimes it can be a bit overwhelming. Asking me the dreaded Why question that left me speechless and ultimately saying because.

I realize that this answer in the long run will not be enough. I realize that as you get older we will need to have many discussions on drugs and the real reason that you should stay away from them.

I am of course referring to the illicit kind that are purchased on the street or from a “friend”. Notice the quotations around friend because anyone who sells you those types of drugs are not your friend. They do not care about your well-being, just the money that you pay them for the product they give.

As I sit here tapping at the keyboard I am pondering the one question to your answer. At six years old how do you explain the things that I have seen in my line of work.  I have seen it all baby. Dumbasses Young kids starting drugs with just a little taste that turns into an addiction so hard and fast it will make your head spin.

I have seen these young people die of heart attacks because their poor little hearts could not keep up with the crack that they so desperately put into their bodies. All the while I think to myself was it worth it? Was that high and that moment worth dying and leaving your family behind? Someone’s mother,brother,sister or friend. Was it worth it?

To them maybe it was, They were in fact dependent on that foreign substance to make them whole. how do I explain addiction to you at this young of an age. That it runs in our family and we all need to be careful. If not drugs then with alcohol.  We have to be careful and be strong. The physical need of these drugs can ruin your relationships and destroy any future that you may have. Becoming addicted means placing your want for the drug above all else. Who cares if you steal or lie to get it. Just as long as you have that one hit right?

When you do not get it then the heart begins to race a little. You might become sweaty and incoherent. Hallucinations can begin until you do not even recognize where you are at. This, is the very essence of addiction.

The good thing is that if you never try it, then you cannot become addicted. It is hard and there are kids your age who will want you to try it. Do not let them take you down that rabbit hole sweetheart. it is a dark and lonely place. You are better than that. Stay confident in who you are and stay true to yourself. Do not give in. Not even once. Remember that all drug addicts started with just that one time that turned into just once more.

I remember in the eight Grade a boy in my class asked me to smoke some weed. I just looked at him and said no! I would love to tell you that he said okay and that he left me alone, but he simply did not. He asked me over and over again, trying to get me to give in. Come on he said, just give it a try.

Peer pressure by definition is just that, Your peers trying to pressure you int doing what they want you to do. I know this is difficult to resist and keep saying no, but you must! Believe it or not that is just what I did! I kept saying no, until he finally gave up and guess what? He did not stop being my friend. He did not make fun of me and we spoke casually after that event. He obviously was not the kind of kid I wanted to hang out and so I did not.

Now, I am not telling you these things to make myself sound perfect because we both know that I am not. But I can tell you that although it is not easy, you can overcome the effects of peer pressure and please do not let anyone pressure you into doing something that you do not want to do.

I am simply telling you this because today you asked me a question about drugs and in reality eighth grade is only seven years from now. This post is the best way I can describe how drugs can ruin your body. I hope that we can read this together in a few years and that it will help you understand.

Drugs hurt. Drugs Kill. Drugs make people still. Drugs Lie and ruin relationships,Drugs takes the innocence of young little boys and girls like yourself. Drugs takes away true happiness and rob you of your safety.

Today you proudly  said  ” No to Drugs” and I pray to GOD that it stays that way!





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Keep Calm I Am Not Smarter Than A First Grader


I consider myself a well-educated woman! I have a college degree and am once again attending college to further my education. I like to teach and enjoy reading! So naturally my ever so inquisitive ( See big word, I told you I was smart) 6yo asks me questions all freaking day long!What is this, and Why is that? Which leaves me to ask my own question.

Why the hell do I not know the answers to the questions she is asking! I mean i should know, but the kid stumps me, every single time! So for your humorous pleasure I decided to list the ways in which I am not smarter than a first Grader

  1. I do not know if elephants are larger than giraffe’s! I guess it depends if you are talking height or weight.
  2. I can not tell you why the sky is blue.
  3. I do not know where the colors of the rainbow come from?
  4. I honestly cannot tell you where the tooth fairy is or how she knows that your tooth came out.
  5. nope I sure cannot tell you what 20 minus 7 is without counting on my fingers.
  6. Why does the sun circle the earth? Oh yeah I can’t tell you that one either
  7. Hmm Fractions! Did you know first graders start learning fractions! That information was dumped from my head after my first round of college!
  8. Is a Cheetah faster than a horse? Umm I think so….
  9. I absolutely did not know that a baby dolphin was called a calf!
  10. If you ask me to name all of the U.S. Presidents then I am going to tell you to Google it Kid!

OH Wait! You do not know what Google is! YES… At least I know something a First Grader doesn’t know!!

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To my Daughter’s Daycare

Dear Ladies who take care of my daughter,

     I walked in the building today with five-year old in tow. Signed her in, put up her backpack and then walked her back to the morning class. You did not see me at first as you and your coworker were standing with your backs turned to the children starting at the i phone. We had a storm the night before and you were chatting about the weather, and while I understand your curiosity and that you were trying to see the local radar, I seen something totally different.

   It was a full minute of watching you two talking and looking down at the weather app before turning to notice mine and my daughters attendance. I hugged her and said goodbye with much reluctance on my part I might add. You did not see what I see. Until you have looked at this scenario from a parent’s eyes, then you can not possible understand.

  I seen two employees standing there with children eating breakfast with their backs turned to them. I seen the possibilities of what could go wrong in sixty seconds while your backs were turned. Did you know that if a child or any human is truly choking that they will make absolutely no sound at all. If you have attended basic CPR, and I know that you in deed have as it is required, then you would know this tidbit of information. It takes less than sixty seconds for a choking victim to become unconscious and stop breathing. Please do not turn your backs on them.

  My daughter is the single most important person in my life and I as a working mother have to trust you explicitly. You are part of the team that is helping me to raise her and teach her. Do not turn your back on her.

I realize that parents are not able to keep 100 percent watchful eye on their kids. I understand that this thought may be crossing your mind as you read this. However, You are being trusted with at least ten children each day and that is your sole and only responsibility for those eight hours. At the risk of sounding a bit snobbish, it is what you are getting paid to do. Do not turn your back on her.

    If you do not feel that you can take care of the precious life that I have intrusted upon you, then you do not need to be in child care. I have a high stress job in which i can deal with the most intimidating of persons and guess what is the single most difficult part of my day is? It is dropping off my children every morning and trusting their care to strangers in hopes that they will protect and care for them while I am off trying to provide for them. That is the absolute scariest part of my day.  She is my heart and my sole and deserves the best care you can offer. So not turn your back on her.

   You could not see the fury on my face as I left your facility with sadness and anger all over my face. You did not see me plant a smile on my face as I pretended to be okay for the other two kid’s sake. I wanted to yell at you and say What the hell! But I refrained from doing just that. Instead I passively walked out and await to bring to your director’s attention. I do not think you are bad or need to get terminated. But I do think that this needs to be brought to your attention. If it is one thing that I hope you take away from all this is the importance of your role in caring for my daughter, and never ever again, turn you back on her.





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In the eye of the Swine


With all the ebola talks, I thought we could all use a reminder that flu season is upon us! I wrote this in a moment of frustration from seing so many yound healthy people die last year from H1N1!

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As  sure as I am standing here, I begin to feel a churning in my stomach. Like I am going to be sick, my insides want to come out. I don’t usually get sick to my stomach as I am a 40 something year old who  takes vitamins, works out and… oh yeah, it’s coming.  Lunch just came back  up.  Man, that cheeseburger didn’t taste so good coming out. Yuck! I must have some sort of stomach bug. A few hours later it begins on the other end! That is not a picture I am going to paint, but it’s brutal. This is not making for a great day, and it’s time to go home. It’s just a stomach bug, I will feel better in a bit. Let me just take some sips of Gatorade here and there, and I will be okay. I never get sick….

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Proof that prayer works! All three kids are well behaved and at the same time!

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We had a Date night


The apocalypse happened and me and the hubby were granted a date night! I can’t believe it myself because it had been so long! I know, I know.. it doesn’t take much to make this girl happy!

I randomly sent my sister-in-law a text asking her to watch the kids and she couldn’t do it the night i had asked for but said she could do it this Saturday! Naturally I jumped at the offer and said Yes without hesitation! You don’t have to tell this girl twice.

We are kind of low on funds here as of late, but decided to make the trip as it would be worth it for both of our sanity’s sake! Dropping the kids off at the in-laws we decided on a BBQ restaurant that was very inexpensive.

I felt like a woman again. Not someone’s mom, but April! A thirty something woman who was out on a date. The hubby held open my doors like he did when we were dating. Quite the change from both of us toting around our kids while kicking the door shut behind us!

I had forgotten how much my husband actually talks while at the restaurant. We talked the entire time as if we did when staying up till 4am in those early dating stages. A well-kept secret for those who do not know the Hubby because most would categorize him as the silent type. It honestly surprised me when we started dating because until then I had thought he was the silent type as well.

Next was a movie! Two Hours of quiet time just me and the hubby, Umm yes please! Alexander and the terrible, no good very bad day! It was hilarious and a much-needed laugh for two parents who had been stressed to the max! I highly recommend you watching the movie it was great and just what the doctor ordered.

After two hours of much-needed alone time it was time to pick up the kiddos, and you know what? They were so exhausted all we did was pick them up and go straight to bed! It even gave us a little time to miss them.

We lose our identity as parents, and forget that the one we drift away from will be the one who is still around once the kids grow up and move out. Most days are hard pressed to find some time together, but I think necessary.

I am afraid that If I do not begin to make more of an effort with my husband then once the kids are gone we will forget why we got married in the first place. Our date night was a nice refresher, but we must remember to make that effort more often. Not just when the stars and moon aligns once every eight months or so!

So this is my declaration that at least once every two months We will make an effort to spend time together. I know once every two months is not much but baby steps people, baby steps. Whether it be a put the beds to early and sit on the couch together date or a go out on the town type of date we will stick to this! We will not forget that we were first a couple before parents. We will remember why we fell in love and foster that relationship like it deserves to be fostered.

How Long has it been since your last date? Has it been months or was it just last week? What tips or suggestions do you have for parents who are having trouble making time for each other?

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Tips from a Blogger while she is still learning


I now have over 200 followers which is AWESOME! While by some big bloggy standards that may not mean much but to me it is amazing! It serves as validation that I do have a voice! Thank you all for reading my little blog, this experience has been nothing short of wonderful.

Since i am still considering myself new at this ( less than a year) I thought I would share some tips that I have picked up along the way.

Tips from a blogger while she is still learning!

  1. SET no Expectations! – Every day 20,000 people decide to start a blog! – amazing huh.. So do not expect to be an overnight success because it will not happen
  2. You truly have to work at getting followers – In my early days I thought I would just write some stuff and people would read it and follow, but not so much! It wasn’t until I began to interact with other bloggers by commenting on their blogs that I began to build my own community
  3. Do not be afraid to do something different – if you always write in a certain style it is okay to try something new – you just may discover a new side to you
  4. Remember your readers can tell the different between a post that has something to say and a post just to post! – In effort to just get something out there, I have done this one myself and guess what? My readers did  not buy it! so lesson learned
  5. It’s okay to take a break – I know you just started and now we are talking about taking a break – but seriously life gets in the way sometimes and it’s just hard! The word press community is amazing and they will be here to support you when you get back!
  6. It will take time to find your voice I honestly began writing in one style and quickly realized that once I found my voice it was different from I had imagined. I wanted to write in this humorous sarcastic style and while that is certainly one side of me, I always ended up trying to up lift and encourage – so that has become my voice – but still a little sarcasm in the mix here and there
  7. You will get unfollowed – hey your writing will not be for everyone and while it hurts who the hell cares ( see my sarcasm is still in there) – but honestly the first time I realized i had been unfollowed by a blogger that I truly enjoyed it hurt, but then I realized that we have different styles and mine isn’t for them, so that’s okay with me.
  8. You will find connections that you have never imagined – there are some bloggers that I would probable be best friends with had they not lived so far away, so it’s nice to meet people across oceans from you that feel like family
  9. Social Media – this is the key to getting the word our there! Start a Facebook page or twitter account – we are social media machines and it works!
  10. Just be yourself – Have fun and enjoy the ride!

I hope you enjoyed my tips, They certainly would have helped me when I began almost a year ago! a special thanks to all of my followers who read what this tired mommy has to say! I appreciate all of you for reading and sticking around as this has been a personally enlightening experience in my Life!

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I Remember years of Influenza past..

Sickness.. It comes in waves and when left to the media comes in pandemics. They find the news and stretch it into something more grandiose than it needs to be. We are focusing on Ebola and the Enterovirus 68  right now, but when have we mentioned that flu season has arrived and the need to vaccinate is now stronger than ever.

I remember how awful it was last year to watch otherwise healthy young men and woman become hospitalized with the flu. I remember sending pregnant woman who were going to die to a larger hospital in hopes that maybe, just maybe we could save her for her new-born babies sake, and for the sake of her husband.

I remember doing chest compressions on a young, healthy and quite buff 40-year-old male as he died from respiratory complications due to the flu. We have had one case of Ebola in the united states and here we are dealing with the invisible pandemic. it may turn into one, but let’s be real. The flu is transferred by contact with the droplets from one person to the other. Which means you could get it from the air.

It is highly contagious and could be deadly. Last year’s mojo seemed to be young, healthy males but also the pregnant ladies who were in their third trimester.  In other words, people who thought they did not need to vaccinate because hey, the flu only kills sick people right?

Listening to a husband cry for his wife as she is being intubated to help her breath is possible one of the worst sounds possible. It is quite simply put unfair!

I have seen much more last year with the deaths of the victims that fell prey to the influenza pandemic surrounding our area last year. If you seen how many deaths I had seen then you would classify it just that, a pandemic. All of the victims had the same common theme. They did not get a flu vaccination.

I am not saying that you will not get the flu, but you should not get a deadly form of the flu or at least it will be less severe. My household gets the vaccination each year and we have still had the flu, but the symptoms were not as severe and it had a shorter life span than if we would have not had the flu.

If you are concerned about the vaccine itself I encourage you to do your research. Only you know what is best for you, but there are many myths out there regarding the vaccine that people tend to believe and shy away from getting it. With other illnesses like Ebola and the Enterovirus out there, I for one want to protect my kids from what I can and not stress over what I cannot control right now.

This post is part of the Stream of Consciousness prompt: http://lindaghill.com/2014/10/10/the-friday-reminder-and-prompt-for-socs-october-1114/



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The Guard Frog

It was Christmas eve about three years ago, when a three-year old sassy came running into our bed in the middle of the night! Screaming like I had never hear before she stated quite matter of fact ” There is a frog in my bed!”

Trying to keep her from seeing what Santa had brought her at midnight I quickly told her to lay down in mommy’s bed that it was just a bad dream. Sassy was quite insistent that there really was a frog in her bed, so I asked her to stay put and I went to see for myself.

Her little toddler princess bed not to high off the ground lay there with a sheet and pillow. No frog, so I turned around and told her there was no frog in her bed!

Now, every morning I load the kids things into the car at the butt crack of dawn. Every morning it is still dark and every morning I see him. Our very own frog that is perched in our drive way. I step out and he hops away, but it never fails every morning he is right there. He stays near the door but not too close almost as if he is protecting us.

I don’t typically like frogs but something about him makes me not mind. He is almost like my own little pet at this point. I say Good morning, he says ribbit and hops to the side so I can take care of my children.

Three years later and my daughter still insists that a frog was in her bed on Christmas Eve! Her memory amazes me at the age of six she can recall events from years ago down to the most distinct of details. So naturally that leads me to think, maybe there was a frog in her room that night! Who is to say it wasn’t the same one who sits in our yard each night watching over us as if he is protecting us.

Has your children ever came up with a wild story that you thought maybe, just maybe it were actually true?

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