As a busy mom who works full-time and attends school part-time, I have often fallen victim to distraction. I am either thinking about my next assignment or what happened at work today. The thoughts in my mind run its own marathon day in and day out, and can be quite simply put , mentally exhausting. This morning as I am sitting on the couch with my children watching t.v. Thinking that I was spending time with them, my 1 yo son comes over to me, and without saying a word, simply pushes the phone in my hand away, crawls in my lap and lays his head on my shoulder and begins to cuddle with me.
WOW! Talk about eye-opening! at One years old, he will never be able to understand the profound effect that this has had on me. without words, and in those twenty seconds he has taught me much more than I quite possibly may ever be able to teach him! Wise beyond his years he has taught me to live in the moment, and just be with him. I didn’t have to be doing anything other than cuddling him and loving him. From this simple gesture I have learned that love can be pure and forgiving. Children do not hold grudges, they do not linger on to feelings. They just love with all of their heart and no strings attached. It’s as if he was telling me ” I forgive you for not being here when I went to bed the other night.” , but be here with me now! When you are here, then I want you to truly be here in this moment!
Recently I had written a post about social media. In this post I talked about how it has interfered with our day-to-day lives and inhibits our ability to enjoy it. In this moment, my son taught me that I am still a work in progress, that I am not perfect, but I am his mom and he loves me for who I am. He has taught me to never forget that what’s happening in front of me is more in important than a status update. That with all of the distractions in the world, I will never get this moment back. My children will never be this age again. In ten years from now I will not remember what I was reading on my phone, but I hope to remember my kids laughs, jokes and funny quotes. They are the very essence for my being. The reason for everything that I do.
As I look at the image above, It has quickly become one of my favorites. Not because it is a perfect photo of me, nor do I look like I belong on a fashion magazine, but because it is real. It shows a mom, with tired eyes and dark circles, a somewhat messy room behind her, but it is real and shows the love I have for my son. We are enjoying the moment together, Laughing and being silly together. I am amazed at what having children has done for my life, and the fullness that I feel from having them. As parents I urge you not to think about what you will teach your children, how you will grow and raise them, but how will they teach you! Because in one swift move, my son has taught me everything about life, love and forgiveness. A lesson that I will share with him when he is old enough to understand. I will share with him how at the age of one, he taught his mother so much. He taught me a lesson that I will truly treasure forever, and I will tell him how grateful I am for his one of a kind, unconditional love that has taught me so very much!
Looking back at a few of my favorite moments 🙂