The holidays are approaching us as evidenced by the christmas music blaring through target on November first of thoses year! it still amazes me that we listen to christmas before we can even get through Thanksgiving. I was walking down the coffee aisle which is conveniently located across from the wine aisle when a mother and daughter duo came rushing by.
The daughter appeared to be between four and five and had curly blinde hair sitting in the front seat of the cart. Mom suddenly stopped and said ooh wine. Now what happened next caught me a little off guard and if I am being honest amused me a little. Not in a judgemental way, but in a Thank Gawwd, that didnt happen to me way. However, it most likely would not have happened to me.
I know by now you are wondering ehat happened so without further ado, here goes. That sweet little girl grabbed he mom’s face and said no! I dont want you getting drunk tonight. Bless her heart she was just as sweet as she cohld be while telling that to her mom, but like I said. THANK gawwd IT Wasn’t me.
I began to reflect on why this paticular occurrence would not haooen to me and its quite simple. I do not drink in front of my kids. I May or may not have a 2yo that says shit every now and then, but I will not be accused of getting drunk. I do not judge anyone for doing this but its just not for me.
This fact has quite often been frustrating to my own family memebrs on the holidays as most tend to celebrate with a drink. Here is the deal. I do not want my children to associate Thanksgiving, Christmas or any other holiday with alcohol. Their memories need to be of mom and dad playing games with them, and eating pumpkin pie. Playing in the leaves and not with mom or dad getting snockered.
Here is an even bigger deal.I need to remember their faces when they open their presents in Christmas morning, and how much they enjoyed their Ham and cresent rolls. I do not want these moment to slip by in a fog. I want to be present as holidays are about togetherness. Lets face it, these moments go by way too fast. One day these kids will have their own kids.
By now you are probably thinking poor naive April, she thinks if she doesnt drink around her kids then they will not drink. This is not true. I will never hide the fact that I enjoy the occassional glass of red wine after the kids are asleep. In fact if my children were to ever ask, I would be honest with them about it and explain that it is a grown up decision. A decision not to be taken lightly. Above all else I hope that my kids can reflrect on their childhood with warm , loving memories. That we made sugar cookies every christmas eve, two years ago when we had a flour fight (our make believe snowball fight), the times we sang christmas songs and of course the lights. what they will not remember is mom paying more attention to her glass than them.