Bullying has been quite the topic of discussion here lately. In fact I was planning to write a post on Bullying for 1000 speak and life got in the way and said no you don’t! This is a subject that I feel passionate about and felt guilty for not writing that post so I decided to choose it as my research project for my English paper. It is interesting the things you find out or well really decide to start thinking about when you do a little research.
In my research I have learned about a phenomenon called bystander bullying. Essentially it is a bystander who witnesses the event and does nothing. The child does not say anything nor does he or she do anything to stop the occurrence. Is it because the bystander is afraid or is there some other reason? I think it is due to the lack of awareness we as s society has for bullying in addition to the lack of tools provided for children on how to stop the behavior.
My point is this simple. Talk to your kids. Tell them about bullying and why it is wrong. Explain that bullying is repeated acts of aggression towards another human being and it is never okay to let someone be harmed physically or mentally and do nothing. Teach them to tell a parent, a teacher or some other adult if they are afraid to say anything during the act. Tell them to get help.
We need to teach our kids to have compassion for the victim and help them in any way possible by befriending them and choosing to help. It is easy to watch someone get bullied and say nothing but true bravery is shown when action to stop and say no this is not okay!
I will be honest in saying that I have not had these conversations with my children but that will change today. I have talked to my kids about not letting anyone hurt them or say mean things to them. They are taught to stand up for themselves, but have I taught them to stand up for others? not really. It is something that we do not always think about but that is why I love the concept of 1000 speak. The awareness that everyone brings to the table just simply makes you think about things that you may have not considered before. Today I will stand tall and teach my children courage, bravery and a love for human life that surpasses their own! Today we will be brave.
Courage is fire and bullying is smoke – Benjamin Disraeli
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