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The Best Christmas Present Ever!

A little while ago, I posted about my 8yo’s recent diagnosis of MTHFR. After months of not understanding what was happening with her and trying to figure out why she seemed so sad all the time, we took her to see a counselor. We were told that she has OCD tendencies and symptoms of clinical depression. To say that this is heartbreaking is an understatement. How could a little girl, who has never experienced tragedy, has a warm and loving home be depressed?

The counselor then explained that she may have a genetic mutation that is causing her symptoms and a simple cheek swab would tell us if that is what we were dealing with. She felt strongly that this is what was happening to our oldest duckling. The results came in, and she was right. Our oldest had two genetic mutations associated with MTHFR which inhibit her ability to breakdown vitamin B and folate. The more serious side effects of this condition being depression. We are currently able to treat her with a prescription vitamin that helps her body breakdown folate and enhance her mood without prescription antidepressants.

The counseling sessions have been incredibly emotional for her and myself. You often think these are for the child to learn self awareness and coping techniques but I am learning a lot about my relationship with my daughter as well as my parenting faults in the process.

One of the issues we have been working though is her inability to say I love you! In the counselor’s words, my daughter is not emotionally attached to me as her mother. It is like a cold, hard slap in the face when you hear that from a non biased professional let me tell you.

We have been working on bonding, the 8yo and I. Taking time for just me and her and enjoying activities that she loves to do. we started scrapbooking, and having pokemon battles. It has been good. The supplements seem to be helping her mood and I am happy to say we have more good days then bad now. The counselor has even commented on how well she is doing. Our every two week appointments are now once a month!

If that wasn’t enough, the oldest gave me the best Christmas present of all! On Christmas Eve, as we were going through the bedtime routine, she asked me for something to write with. I brought her a pen and she proceeded to write in her notebook. She ten told me that I could read her special note to me after I put 3yo to bed. I giggled the 3yo to bed.

Expecting to read something that said, I am excited for presents in the morning this. A note that said I love you and merry Christmas! Tears streamed down my face as I read the words over and over. She loves me.  may recognizes the hard work we have done together to bond. She may never be able to say the words aloud, and she may never understand how I love her more than anything in the world. But that night, she gave me the best gift I have ever received. She gave me hope, love and faith that despite everything we have been through this year, we will come out on the other side  stronger as a family. She gave me her love!

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I am a wife of ten years, mom of three, Nurse and student! My household is quite chaotic and busy. With a six year old going on sixteen. we shall call her "Sassy", a four year old, who is stubborn as a mule, she shall be called " mini me", and a one year old, we will call "Buddy". Our girls do Ballet, and our son, well he is all boy! Very curious and always getting in to something. When we found out we were having a boy i laughed and said " god must have known we needed a little less diva in our life," Ha, little boys are quite the handful! I love my kids with all of my heart, and i love my job too! As a nurse leader i get to see many sides to healthcare and help encourage and guide new nurses. I love taking care of patients and being able to have grown up talk and then come home to my babies. The house is usually chaotic with lots of tantrums, and messes, but i wouldn't change it for a bit. On the rare occasion that i am able to have some spare time to myself, i like to read, bake and decorate cakes, and take pictures of my kiddos. Time to myself is rare so i decided to start this blog to have a creative outlet and connect with other working moms, who might be going through the same situations as myself. I hope you enjoy my thoughts and stories as a mom, student, wife and Nurse! These stories will range from Diapers and tutus to meetings and boardrooms! and everything that falls in between. Enjoy and thanks for visiting my site.

20 thoughts on “The Best Christmas Present Ever!

  1. Wow. Love how open you are about your situation. She is a lucky girl to have a mom like you who is willing to take the time and emotional pain to find solutions. I hope your honesty helps other parents with a similar struggle. Personally it helped me try to keep things in perspective and remember that you never know what someone else is struggling with. Thank you for sharing.

    1. Thank you. These struggles have been bery recent and a year ago, I was in a job that required me to b on call 24/7 and it took it’s toll on our kids. I am no longer in a leadership position and it has allowed me to pay better attention to our kids. I am thankful for the life we have now, despite it’ troubles. Thank you for your kind words.

  2. Oh my goodness what a very hard time you’ve been having. I’m delighted your hard work and understanding has paid off in such a beautiful way.What a great Happy Christmas present she gave you.

    1. I think that is the very essence of motherhood, never giving up. even when it I hard. Even when they think they don’t realize how much they need you. My relationship with my own mother has been weighing on my mind lately, and while I love her very much, she always gave u too easily. I won’t do that to my children. I love them more than they could ever possibly understand…

  3. I am glad they are able to treat her with supplements and that she is improving. I can only imagine how challenging this has been for both of you. What a note she gave you to cherish. 🙂

  4. Wow! Talk about a crash course in personal character. I cannot imagine the things you have gone through. It sounds like everything is moving the right direction. I truly wish a very happy and prosperous New Year to you and your family.

  5. Awww…the end made me a bit teary eyed, April! So glad you get a diagnosis and able to intervene early to at least know what you both are dealing with. I’m just amazed at how such mutations occur at such a young age…it’s depressing. It is a great Christmas present, indeed. Such sweet powerful words! Have a wonderful new year with plenty more I love yous. 😊x.

  6. Wow! I can only imagine how difficult this would be to hear. I have had negative feedback from my teenage daughter sometimes–a strong not always empathetic personality–and it has been hard hard hard (opposites of her siblings in natural empathy). So I can imagine how painful this must be. But what a testament to being able to turn things around. Good for you! Every effort towards our kids redeems itself. Perhaps most rewarding job on earth? But definitely most emotionally difficult job on earth. Merry Christmas! What a beautiful one it must have been for you.

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