You look tired. I cringed as my mother said this to me last night. It’s just a nice way of telling someone they look like crap. The truth is, I was tired last night. I was downright exhausted actually. The 4yo has been super clingy lately and I can’t even go pee without an audience who may or may not be clinging to my leg saying mommy don’t leave. These days I can’t even go pee alone. It is the very essence of exhaustion.
I read another bloggers post today about the best piece of parenting advice she has received. That advice being to take time for yourself. Something I used to be much better about but somewhere forgotten along the way.
I am not sure if it’s because the husband works so hard and has to get up at 2a.m so he is constantly tired, or if finishing school made me feel as if I couldn’t take anymore time away from the kids but somewhere along the way I stopped taking time for myself. Between 9yo’s cognitive behavior therapy, soccer training, 7yo’s poor grades, 4yo’s sudden clinginess and attempting to keep up with the house ( although i have lost that battle) i am drowning.
I typically choose words to live by each year instead of a normal new years resolution. I find that setting a goal to lose weight etc. just doesn’t work for me. While I still need to reflect on some words to live by in the year , you can bet they will include something in regards to taking some small amount of daily time for myself. It’s just too important for our physical and mental well-being.
Today I will make a point to spend a few minutes alone to recharge. The funny thing is, at work people think I am an extrovert when the truth is I turn on the extrovert due to necessity but I am completely drained when I get home. I need that time alone to recharge and I suppose the same goes for parents who are extroverts or really just any parent. WE need that alone time to recharge. When the hubby gets home from work, I fully intend to get a cup of coffee by myself and bring a book with me to read. It may only be twenty minutes, but I need it! Even now as i type, the 4yo is yelling “I want momma!” sigh.. guess it’s time to go. Please share your stories with me. I could use the encouragement today.
How do you take time for yourself while in the depths of child rearing?